Don’t change. Change is impossible, and even if it were possible, it is undesirable. Stay as you are. Love yourself as you are. And change, if it is at all possible, will take place by itself when and if it wants. Leave yourselves alone. The only growth-promoting change is that which comes from self-acceptance.
— Anthony de Mello
When our teacher encouraged us to identify our personal Top 10 destructive thought patterns, he didn’t do so in order for us to have a list of things we could now attack and improve and mend and make better. He did so in order for us to welcome them with kindness as part of who we are. Only in an embrace can we be find the bravery to let things go.